How To Potty Train A Girl Fast: My Secret Method

Oh, boy; where do I even begin. I have watched friends and family members struggle with potty training their daughters; I’ve watched their four year olds poop their pants; I’ve watched their 3 1/2 year olds have to wear a diaper if they were gonna be in the car for more than an hour because they wouldn’t tell their parents they had to go potty. Honestly, I can’t relate. I want to share with you my method on how to potty train a girl fast.

I did this ONE thing when I potty trained both my daughters and it lead to both of them going accident free on the very first day of potty training and being out of diapers during night time within the week. This method is simple, cost friendly, and sanity saving. Let me explain.

I’m going to share everything I did with both of my daughters to get them potty trained. I also want to make it clear that you do NOT need a potty training book, you don’t need potty training treats, you don’t need a little tiny training potty, you don’t need to buy a potty training course, and you most definitely do NOT need to buy any pull-ups.

Don’t waste your money.

**I also wanted to let you know that both of my daughter were potty trained the month that they turned two and a half.

Common Obstacles We Overcame

You will face many obstacles while you’re potty training your little girls. These are the obstacles we faced and how we quickly overcame them.

1. Peeing frequently
When you first start potty training, your little one will have to learn to hold her pee in for longer period of times. At first, you will be in the bathroom to help her potty every 15 minutes sometimes. This is normal. Annoying. But, normal. For both of my daughters, this is something that they just had to learn to do over time.

They get tired of peeing all the time; they don’t want to have to leave their bowl of ice cream or their toys behind to go to the bathroom. They WILL stop going so often. For both of my daughters, the peeing every 15-20 minutes non sense ended within the first week of being potty trained.

2. Afraid of falling
Again, both of my daughters experienced being afraid of falling into the potty. Let them hug you while they sit there; it’s okay to let them be afraid, but also reassure them that they’re safe and that you are right there with them. With my oldest daughter, Elsie, it worked to sit beside her and put one hand on her hip and one on her back to make her feel safe enough to potty.

However, with my youngest daughter, Mairead, this method did NOT work. She is legitimately scared to death of falling in the toilet. So for her, I put a little training seat on top the potty. After two weeks of using it, I took it out of the bathroom. I told her we don’t use that anymore; I told her that big girls sit on the potty with out a little seat.

She was scared at first, but it was an obstacle she overcame by me being super loving and supportive towards her while she was sitting on the potty.

3. Afraid to poop/ Holding in poop
Mairead was terrified of pooping the first week of being out of diapers. She hated the feeling of poop hanging and the splash of the water. She would ask to hug me every time she had to poop. So, what did I do? I sat on the edge of the tub and held her while she held me, so she would feel safe to poop.

On day two of being out of diapers, she cried, held her butt and rolled around in the floor because she needed to poop and was afraid to. She refused to poop on the potty, full blown tantrum. Like, the kind of tantrum that is just other worldly; the kind where you can’t imagine any other kid on the planet has ever thrown such a fit before.

She begged for a diaper. I thought I was gonna lose my mind.

I knew that if she kept holding her poop in that she could end up hurting herself, so I told her if she wanted to poop on herself to go ahead and do it, but that she wasn’t allowed to use diapers anymore; I told her big girls don’t wear diapers.

She pooped in her panties while sitting on a little wooden stool in the living room. She freaked out and stood up. She took a few wide legged steps and started crying while the poop fell out of her big girl panties. SHE HATED IT.

For about six more days I could tell she was holding in her poop for way longer than she should, BUT she was letting it out with some loving support from me sitting beside her in the bathroom. After a week and a half, her fear of pooping was completely gone and she would even walk into the bathroom and poop by herself without even telling me she had to go. Problem solved.

How To Potty Train A Girl Fast

My number one secret for how to potty train a girl fast is to stop putting a diaper on your child. Just quit. As soon as you decide you are going to wake up the next day and start potty training your little one, get the panties out and put the diapers away. Wake up and immediately have your little girl go sit on the potty and try to pee. When she’s done, put panties on her. Not a diaper. Not a pull-up or training pants. Just big girl panties.

I didn’t give my daughters an option to pee on themselves in a way that wasn’t uncomfortable. If you put diapers or pull-ups on your little one while they’re potty training, you’re just prolonging the potty training process, wasting money, and making it more stressful for both of you.

Of course, if it’s day one of potty training and you absolutely have to run to the store or something, obviously a diaper is okay. But, I really recommend staying at home for a few days in a row in order to truly potty train your daughter quickly.

Make sure you are asking her often if she needs to potty. I legit asked my girls every 5-10 minutes the first day of potty training. This is new to your little girl and she could get busy playing and not think about going to the bathroom often. Asking her often will cut down on accidents.

If she hasn’t went in thirty minutes, I recommend sitting her on the potty anyways. I did this with both of my daughters if they hadn’t peed in a while, I would tell them to try anyways, even if they said they didn’t have to go. I would only do this for the first couple days, because after that, they get better at holding in their pee for longer periods of time and may genuinely not need to go that often.

Another way you can make potty training more difficult is by using a little potty seat that sits on top of the toilet. Yes, use it if your child has a deathly fear of falling in, but what are you going to do if your child feels like they have to have that little seat in order to go pee or poop? If you don’t teach them to use the toilet without one of those seats, you’re setting yourself up to deal with a lot of public tantrums.

What happens when you’re at the grocery store and they have to go potty?
Are you going to pack a toilet seat with you every time you go into the grocery store? Pack it with you every time you go into the gas station? Pack it with you every time you go into a restaurant to have a sit down dinner?

Don’t put that kind of stress on yourself. Just spend a day or two at home teaching your little girl how to not be afraid of using the potty. There may be tears and break downs for a couple of days, but it will save you and her so much pain and stress in the long run.

Night Time Potty Training

Every child is different. I know you have heard that sentiment before.

I have a friend whose daughter was potty trained at two during the day, but would pee in her sleep up until she was four. With my Elsie girl, she peed in the night for about 6 months after she was potty trained. Around the time she turned three, I noticed she was consistently waking up dry a few days in a row, I stopped putting diapers on her in the night and that was the end of that.

For Mairead, after a week of not wearing diapers during the day, she started refusing to let us put a diaper on her for bed time. She said “I don’t want diaper mommy!” She was insistent. So, I let her try to go to bed in panties, and lo and behold… She has woke up dry every morning since.

Personally, I wouldn’t stress over night time accidents. When I was a teenager, I took a babysitting course and I remember reading that it’s normal for kids to still wet the bed up until age six. And they can still have an occasional accident up until age 10-12.

So girl don’t stress if your daughter needs a diaper for night time, it’s totally normal.

In Conclusion

How to potty train a girl fast DO’S:
1. Do have her wear big girl panties during the day time.
2. Do let them learn what it feels like to pee or poop on themselves.
3. Do encourage, reassure, and be there for them when they’re scared, unsure, or nervous.
4. Do keep a stool in the bathroom so they can get on the potty easily
5. Do celebrate when she goes to the potty. (We would dance and sing “Mae Mae peed on the potty Mae Mae peed on the potty!!!)

How to potty train a girl fast DONT’S:
1. Don’t use diapers, pull-ups or training pants during the day.
2. Don’t use a little training potty.
3. Don’t use a potty seat that goes on top of the toilet if you can keep from it.
4. Don’t use potty training treats.

I hope this answered your question about how to potty train a girl fast and if you give this method a try, leave me a comment below. I love hearing from you all!

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7 thoughts on “How To Potty Train A Girl Fast: My Secret Method

  1. I’ve read your article. My biggest question is how old were your daughters when you started the potty training process. My daughter is 23 months old and she seems interested but she won’t potty on her own. If I leave her naked , she won’t go but soon as I put a pull up on her it happens. Am I trying to push her too fast??

    1. Both of my girls started potty training right after they turned two. Even though it took tons of accidents, I persisted. That being said, you know your baby girl better than anyone. If you think it’s not time yet… then it’s not time yet.

      1. Thanks so much Samantha. I think she’s ready – just stubborn lol. Any other tips for potty training besides what I read? She will be two on October 17 so I’m definitely looking forward to starting the potty training process.

  2. My daughter is 4 we’ve been trying for over a year to get her on potty training this year when she started preschool she suddenly decided she wanted to be serious about potty training she does good but I guess depending on her mood would go back to pull ups this week she suddenly has decided she doesn’t want the pull ups anymore she wants her big girl undies but still has accidents (like training a puppy really – she just pooped on the floor) so I read this article seems like we’ve got a good basis just need to take away her crutches/ safety nets and keep on her perhaps this will be the last week of the painstaking process lol wish me luck I’ll try to remember to update after let yall know if it works and by how long it took (she already potties fine in public rather enjoys it even if she’s got pullup on it’s been home and school that she’s been back and forth about now I see why – no crutches/ safety net in public) thanks so much maybe the nightmare is finally over

  3. It’s 3:40am and I felt helpless… until reading this. Thank you!! My daughter turned 3 on March 16th and she still refuses to use the potty. Even just to SIT on it. She says no mommy don’t want to. When I offer her a lollipop to at least try and go potty (which I won’t be doing anymore😅) she sits on the toilet immediately and pees. Also, if I don’t physically walk her to her potty and sit her down, she pees herself. God forbid I’m in the shower after being consistent for the first 6 hours of the day, she’ll pee in her pull up. All very frustrating. I will be trying this tomorrow. No more pull ups!! Only underwear!! (I bought them already too😅) No more tasty rewards!! And I’ll be setting a timer on my phone for every 20 minutes! Thank you!!

  4. Thank you for the article!
    My daughter is 20 mo and has been consistently letting me know when she needs to poop for months. She never poops in her diaper anymore, she also pees in the toilet but she doesn’t let me know. I change her diaper standing up as a way for her to get the idea of underwear. My question here is, we do use a potty seat because she is very small. But I know she’s ready because she even says “pee feels like water”. Should having to use the seat keep me from begin training?

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